UPDATE: Here is the link to the post I made on about Tracy. This post is still being commented on.
Sexual Harassment & Assult in Iraq: Tracy Barker’s Story
I received the following email this evening. I have removed the womans email address so that she does not receive unwanted emails. But I wanted people to understand where I stand on this and leave it and me alone I will address issues in this email at the end of this post.
From: Denise Howland
Sent: Wednesday, June 18, 2008 7:14 PM
Subject: Your promotion of your book
I noticed that anywhere you can find Tracy K Barkers name you have to add a promotion to your book.
To me you are just like Jamie Jones, revictimizing a victim who is Tracy. I dont get why you continue to knock Tracy down at every chance you get in your bloggings. Though I would never expect or request to explain this to me because i dont care about your reasons, however you are no better then what Jamie Jones did to Tracy.
Karma can be a bitch. Tell me if you did not report what happened to you in Iraq why mention it now? It was your decision to ignore reporting this and talking about this and to write your book instead. This of course never makes sense to anyone I know.
Tracy is not stating she is the first victim she is saying she is the ONLY VICTIM married to a military man who was a victim and she reported this. Big deifference however you continue to insist on berating her.
Have you ever once thought that maybe just maybe if you would have reported this and made it public you could have spared other victims from going through what happened.
So the true question is could these victims have been spared? If the answer is yes then perhaps this is on your hands and you should write a sequel to that book of yours of how you could have prevented the women becioming victims.
Though I can almost guarantee this will not be the last time I see you promoting your book off the backs of a rape victim however the only one I have seen you rape a victim over and over again from your blogs of your promotion is Tracy.
Its amazing, you bring a victim down taking the attention away from a victim gaining justice for everything that happened to her because you are jealous, then promote your book with the words that you did not come forward which is all on you and no one elses fault but your own.
Why dont you do what other victims do for each other, support another victim, start a blog or better yet start a petition. Whatever the case may be which I am sure from reading your constant promoting styles your character is not to support but to revictimize Tracy (Victim) all over again.
You should look up revictimize and perhaps you will finally get it. Do you see tracy promoting herself to your website and blogs. You need to let go of your jealousy and contempt for Tracy who was a victim and continues to be a victim at the hands of everyone around her.
All I can say for you is you have some seious issues and weight on those shoulders of yours. It is not Tracys fault on the decisions you chose to handle what happened to you and though not one person should ever be subjected to a violation of the body I hope that you finally fnd peace in the depths of your soul and peace with the decision you made to not report the crime committed against you.
Good luck in finding a calm place in your life where you can stop bashing every blog with Tracy and perhaps promote yourself and book where it does not involve revictimizing a victim and promote your book in a good honest way as other authors or people who pay authors do.
Now, first off. I did report what happened to me. Yes, it took me around a month to do so, and only after the guy came back a second time, but I DID report it! I have also gone back over my post and comments and NO WHERE can I find that I have ever victimized Tracy Barker OR Jamie Jones. I HAVE however stated the fact that Tracy and Jamie are getting help. I HAVE said that I am NOT pursuing a lawsuit against Halliburton/KBR/SEII and nor will I. I HAVE NOT filed a DBA claim either on this matter and will not be doing that either!
I am sick and tired of being attacked and accused of “re-victimizing” either of these women. Tracy came to me and ASKED ME FOR HELP. I posted something that SHE WROTE HERSELF! When I mention my book in relation to this subject, it is because that is the only place I have talked about what happened that night and that is the ONLY place that I will talk about that night. Just recently I was contacted by a reporter about this very topic. I told her, like I told EVERY OTHER REPORTER, I will not talk about that night. I will talk about what happened after and the fact that we were not given keys to our villa’s or rooms, but nothing about that night. I will talk about how I was told to keep my mouth shut and not tell the other women, just like Jamie and Tracy. BUT, I will not talk about that night! I will not voice and have not voiced ANY opinions about what happened to other women!
So please, leave me alone! And if you are not going to respect my wishes on this, MAKE SURE YOU GET YOUR FACTS STRAIGHT! I am sick and tired of dealing with idiot people that do not do their research themselves to see what I have really said in a blog post. OR they are related to one or the other and are pissed that THEY did not get what THEY wanted out of their contact with me, becasue I wont put myself out there as a “rape victim” and cry “oh poor me”. Grow the hell up, move on with your life and allow them and me to heal! I DO NOT consider myself to be a “rape victim”, I am a “SEXUAL ASSAULT SURVIVOR” and I refuse to be labeled any other way.
BTW Denise, I am posting this on all of the blogs that I have and write for so that everyone will get the message.